How much of my past should I really disclose [to my partner]? Full disclosure between us would be nice, but is it necessary? When people pry into other people's past, there's hardly a time they're prying for the good stuff ... like the time the person helped old Mrs. Kanu to cross the street. Or the time the person won the award for Best Chemistry Student. Or the time the person volunteered at the homeless shelter. Or how the person became a working class citizen at the tender age of fourteen.
Most times, the one who is prying wants to know other stuff: How many people have you slept with? What are the names of the people you have slept with? How many times did you sleep with them? Perhaps, they might want to know the position(s), too. And they want to know, how many relationships have you had, and where are they [your exes]? You and Person X had an almost-relationship; I want to know why it never became an actual relationship. How far - physically - did you and Person X go? Did Person X see you naked? What about Person Y? Have you ever had oral sex? If so, who was the first person you had it with? And how many people have you had it with since then? The list, really, is endless.
And, of course, there are other questions: criminal records, credit report, illnesses, divorces, previous engagements, abortions, miscarriages, surgeries, hospitalizations, addictions, etc. This list, too, could go on. But because of how complex relationships are, most of the question-and-answer session dwells on past relationships, past loves, past chemistry, past crushes, and of course, past sexes.
And so, I cannot help but wonder, how much of our past should we really disclose to our partner?
You and I, we could tackle it on Saturday morning on the Verastically Speakin' Talk Radio. I'll be co-hosting with Afrobabe - yes, the very, very insane, possibly psychotic Afrobabe and my very own cousin, Aribaba of Jaguda.com - and yes, this one too is crazy. It'll be at 10am U.S. Eastern (4pm Nigerian) time as usual.
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